The first date is a moment full of dilemmas. You feel great happiness at being able to get him out, but on the other hand you may feel fear and extraordinary worry about how this date will end. When remembering that a first date is crucial in determining the existence of subsequent dates, it is only natural that just one simple thing "want to bring the topic to chat" is enough to make you dizzy. The following are tips that will help you present yourself as a cool chat friend.
Avoid sensitive chat topics
This is very mandatory and very clear. Avoid discussing religion, views on politics, ethnicity, family or any topic of conversation that can develop into a no-win-less-true debate. He certainly wants a date that ends happily, not a tense and awkward date because one of you wins the debate.
What often escapes your control is usually questions that seem very safe but suddenly become sensitive topics. For example a small question like "Your father works where" can get answers like "Don't know. Father went with his affair when I was five years old. "If this happens, don't discuss it further and immediately change to a more positive topic.
Focus on this and the future
Avoid discussing his past. The word of the past is not only limited to the past itself, but also includes ex-ex-friends or love stories in the past. Give more attention to her now, what she is doing now, who is her best friend now. And what's even better is that after you discuss the present, you continue by discussing the future. Want to be what, want to do what and want to have what kind of friend in the future. When you ask about the future, you give him a pleasant opportunity to share his dreams and ambitions with you.
Be a listener, not a speaker
If you are a man, you are indeed responsible for preparing everything including topics. But that does not mean you are also responsible for constantly talking and asking questions throughout the date. When he speaks, pay full attention and be a listener. Women do not need a man who can talk overnight without getting bored, but who can listen when he decides to share part of his life story. In fact, it will be far better if on the first date he talks more than you because it will create a feeling of close and intimate in him. After he talked at length, tuck in a sweet appreciation for him like "Thank you for being open and share your life story." After that he will be called to be comfortable open with him towards you.